So you're thinking about stopping drinking. Or maybe you've already stopped and you're wondering what comes next. Either way, you're here - which means you're looking for an approach that actually makes sense to you.
Good. That probably means we should talk.
You've Found Your Future
You're here because you're ready to do something about your drinking. Maybe you've been thinking about it for a while. Maybe you woke up this morning and just knew it was time. Either way, you're looking for an approach that treats you like the capable, intelligent person you are.
Here's what I know: you don't need to be fixed. You need a framework that actually works for how you think.
You want honest guidance without the drama. You want to understand the why behind your drinking, not just be told you're powerless. You want to build a life that's actually worth staying sober for - not just survive on willpower and meetings.
Here's what that might look like for you:
- You're curious - you want to understand what's actually happening, not just follow instructions
- You want clear direction - not dogma or doctrine, but honest guidance from someone who's actually done this
- You're looking for transformation - not just abstinence, but actually building something meaningful
- You see sobriety as an opportunity - a chance to create the life you actually want
If any of that resonates, you're in the right place.
Here's What I Think
I've been sober for eight years. I'm also an addiction therapist. And honestly? Most of what I learned about staying sober came from ignoring the conventional wisdom.
It's Not About Stopping - It's About Building
Yes, you need to stop drinking. Obviously. But that's like saying the goal of demolishing a building is to clear the lot. Sure - but what are you building in its place?
I help people build lives compelling enough that drinking becomes irrelevant.
Not through willpower. Not through white-knuckling. Through actually creating something worth staying sober for.
Your Past Matters - But Your Future Matters More
Traditional approaches spend a lot of time excavating your damage. And look, understanding your past has value. But you can't drive forward while staring in the rearview mirror.
We'll spend most of our time building what comes next, not dissecting what came before.
I'm here to help you understand what's driving your drinking and give you practical systems to build something better. Yes, we'll talk about the hard stuff - the emotions, the patterns, the honest truth of where you are. But we do it to move forward, not to perform for an audience.
You might love group work - Phenomenal offers community and shared accountability. Or you might prefer one-on-one guidance. Either way, we focus on what actually helps you transform, not what looks good in a meeting.
You want honest guidance without the performance. That's what I offer.
Introducing My THRIVE Sobriety System
I've personally hand-crafted a system that answers the question most sobriety programs avoid: "What makes life meaningful enough that staying sober becomes the obvious choice?"
It's called the THRIVE System, and here's what it actually does:
Transform
We shift how you think about sobriety (it's not deprivation, it's freedom)
Harness
You learn to use your power, not hand it over to a program
Redesign
We rebuild how you respond to life without needing alcohol as a buffer
Implement
You get practical daily practices that actually work
Validate
We track real progress, not just days on a counter
Evolve
You move beyond "just sober" to actually thriving
This isn't about willpower or white-knuckling. It's about creating something so compelling that staying sober becomes the obvious choice.
No dogma. No doctrine. Just what works.
Is this for you?
My approach is built for people who are ready to take ownership of their transformation. You don't need to have it all figured out - you just need to be willing to do the work.
You're probably in the right place if:
- You're done making excuses and ready to face what's actually happening
- You want to understand the deeper reasons behind your drinking, not just stop the behaviour
- You're looking for clear direction and honest feedback, not just cheerleading
- You value practical tools and systems over vague inspirational platitudes
- You're willing to be uncomfortable in service of actually changing
- You see sobriety as the starting point for building something better, not the finish line
- You want guidance from someone who's done this themselves, not just studied it
Whether you want intensive one-on-one support or prefer to work through a structured program with community backup, the core principle is the same: you're capable of this transformation, and I'm here to show you how.
Two Ways to Work Together
One-on-One Coaching
We work together directly to build your path forward. Personalised guidance based on your life, your values, your goals. No cookie-cutter formula.
This is for people who want tailored support through their transition to sobriety.
Phenomenal Sobriety Program
My complete system for transforming your relationship with alcohol. Self-paced or with a group. Online access with live coaching, workbook and an active sober community.
This is for people who want structure and support but prefer to work independently.
Launching January 31, 2025
What You'll Find Here
Beyond the coaching and the program, this site is where I think out loud about sobriety. The philosophy, the practice, the real experience of building a life without alcohol.
No recovery theatre. No platitudes. Just honest writing about what this actually looks like.
If this approach resonates with you, let's work together.
I'm eight years into this journey. I've done the professional training. I've built the systems. And I'm here to help you find your own path to freedom - not follow mine.
Sound good?
My Free Guide
Not Ready to Commit? Start Here.
Before you dive into the full program, get a taste of my approach with "How to Stop Drinking: Without All the Drama" - a beautifully designed guide that combines professional expertise with practical strategies.
It's not just about stopping drinking - it's about rediscovering a vibrant, authentic life. No shame, no surrender, just honest guidance on what actually works.
